Is your child being bullied? Here are five bullying prevention tips to
help you understand why some students decide to pick on other kids.
1. The Classic Bully Was a Victim First
Hurt people, Hurt people.
People who have been hurt in the past, and do not go through some sort
of healing process, often either hurt other people in the same way or
they let the hurting action continue to happen.
Healed people, heal people.
It’s best to help students talk to caring adults about their hurts so
they can heal emotionally from their pain. Talking to a counselor will
help to strengthen a student’s emotional health. Many students care
about physical strength training but often disregard the importance of
being emotionally healthy. Emotionally healthy students stabilize the
class and the school culture.
2. Victim Mentality vs. Leadership Mentality
People
who have been hurt and haven’t gone through any healing process often
carry a victim mentality, and rightly so. When a person with a victim
mentality walks into a room, they say to themselves, “how are OTHERS
going to treat ME.”
When a leader
walks into a room, they say to themselves, “how can I treat OTHERS.”
Leaders will focus on how they are going to treat other people.
3. The Golden Rule vs. the Law of Reciprocity
Most
people know the Golden Rule; however, they do not live by the Golden
Rule. Most people live by the Law of Reciprocity, which says that if
you’re nice to me then I’m going to be nice to you. This law does not
work because if we live by this, then if you’re mean to me, according to
the law of reciprocity, I’m going to be mean back to you. It’s an eye
for eye approach. So basically, I could be having a good day and the
moment you say something bad about me, now I have to say something bad
about you, which ruins my day. So now my day will be dictated by how
others treat me. This gives away a lot of the power we all have within
us.
However, we retain our power when we live out the Golden Rule.
This rule says that we will treat other people the way we want to be
treated. This article on corruption in our society is to be implemented when people are mean to us. So,
when someone says something mean to you, use the Golden Rule when you
react. You don’t let people run over you or treat you however they want,
but regardless of how mean people can be, we do not try to match their
meanness. Instead, we do the complete opposite.
4. Resilient Students Are Less Likely to Be Bullied
The goal is for students to become resilient.
To be resilient is to have something taken apart and then put back
together in a way that it can function like it was intended to function.
So we want students to get to the point where they go through trials or have a mean moment with another student and they can quickly go back to being the student they were supposed to be.
They don’t fall apart, they go through the healing process, they don’t
stay victims, and they can continue to be the student they were supposed
to be.
5. Fights Don’t Start Off as Fights
Most fights
happen because students didn’t know how to resolve a conflict on their
own. A student should never hit another student for whatever reason.
When a student puts their hands on another student without permission
it’s assault, it’s a crime and should be dealt with as such.
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